Yo!! It’s Teebabsy
Couple of days ago, I overhead some guys talking and it led to me writing this. So today’s post is some sort of rant and purgation of my emotions about a crucial issue to the women folk.
I find it very shocking & hypocritical at the double standards society upholds when it comes to women particularly those in power or authority. When a man upholds a position of authority or chooses work over family, he’s regarded as “formidable” “hardworking” or “determined” but if a woman in power does, that’s when the term shifts to being “power hungry”, “controlling” or even “career oriented”.
The truth is a Weak man can’t love a strong woman, he wouldn’t even know what to do with her. Strong women only intimidate weak men!!
So what if I’m ambitious and I go for what I want. Well if that makes me a bitch then I proudly accept the title.
Personally, I think society just needs to get a grip!! What makes it alright for a man to strive for excellence and chase after his dreams but this becomes a Prima facie offence ( a crime that needs no proof to yield a conviction) if it’s a woman??
Is it bad to have dreams and ambitions as a woman? Cuz the ribs that made me were gotten from you is not a guarantee that I should be subservient to you!!! You gotta earn that!!!
Why do most men expect support from their women and offer none in return?? Is it because they feel intimidated or they just want someone to stroke their ego?? They all want a “ride or die chic” but are not ready to be the “ride or die nigga”.
Why is it always a one way street???
Looking back into history, most women who changed the world at one point or the other had issues with their marriages, some even lost their marriages as the men just “up and left!!”
Erin Gruwell, an amazing woman born in Glendora, California taught her students in room 203; who were California teenagers after the Los Angeles riot in 1992 during the worst outbreak of interracial gang warfare.
She taught her students to express and think outside the box; where you come from doesn’t define you and for this she’d always be remembered. Her class went on to write “The Freedom Writers Diary” with their stories retold in the movie “The Freedom Writers”. But When it came down to her man sticking with her, y’all can guess what happened.
She’s currently the founder of The Freedom Writers Foundation that functions to promote her successful teaching methods across various states through presentations.
“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at anytime and you would achieve nothing” – Margaret
Here’s one woman I totally admire, she was loved and hated for her controversial policies but she honestly didn’t care!! Calling her an “Iron Lady” didn’t deter her, it only made her become Britain’s first and to date, female Prime minister who’s the country’s fifth longest serving leader.
I’m sure more praises would have been hollered back then if she were male but I guess it was a crime she had to be female, right???
How about hiding a 13 year old girl even at the prospect of your death, that has got to be courage I tell you. Miep Gies who hid Anne Frank, a young Jewish girl in Germany in the time of the Holocaust (mass murder of approximately six million Jews during world war 2). Though Anne later died at the age of 15 in the Bergen-Belsen ( a Nazi) concentration camp, her diary however was published and has become one of the most popular books ever written titled “The Diary of a Young girl” first published in 1947.
Jennifer Lee has to be another person I love. Watching Disney growing up, it had you believe that you needed to have that Prince Charming as he’d always be the one charging in to rescue you from the evil queen or high tower. But she finally changed that with the movie “Frozen” where she reinvented the image of the Disney princess. For the first time, True love wasn’t between the helpless princess and the hero prince but rather between two sisters who rescued each other!! Call her amazing or what!!
Even with all this talk, the truth is our society is a biased one. Men have it way too easy and we women, well we’re not so lucky but that should be no deterrent to us.
We are stronger than we appear to be and can make a difference or even change the world in our own little way. It begins with fighting for what you believe in!!
I believe in gender equality, leadership, hard work, justice, love, Peace and I’m not ashamed of it. I’m proud of who I am and also of the woman I’m becoming.
Here’s to Strong women, May we know them, May we be them and may we raise them!!!
With Sugary Love…
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