#30ShadesOfGrateful -Day 28


Knowing that it’s easier, the worst is behind you. Well, in this case, the worst isn’t really behind me, but I can escape it for a while.

I can laugh freely, I can make light of my huge problems. It sands so far away now. Not as close as it felt yesterday, and the day before.

I’m grateful for the respite, though temporary.

Tomorrow I face my dragons, my worst fears. Tomorrow I call the troops and we match to battle, if we are going to come back, we don’t know.
We will bid our sons and daughters goodbye, we will give them emblems to remember what we stand for.
We would gather up the last straw and make a fire, and sing songs.

That’s tomorrow.

Today, we sleep like babies, we forget.

Enjoy each other’s company, drink and make merry.

We are grateful for the relief, though temporary.

With Sugary Hands….


#30ShadesOfGrateful – Day 27

This isn’t written by me:

I know you are weak, I am too. Aren’t we all, after all we are only human
I know you’re tired, you have walked so much and you are almost giving up
I know you’re desperate, we all want love even if we have to change to find it
I know you’re sad, cause all you have is yourself, and loneliness frightens you
I know you want a hand, cause I want one too, for the lonely nights and the stormy days
I will help you struggle, we will be together no matter what happens come rain, come shine, through valleys and mountains
I will not judge you, cause we are all fighting the same battles, everyday and I understand.
I know you need me to survive, and I know this because I also need you.

With Sugary Hands…

For the Women


Yo!! It’s Teebabsy


Couple of days ago, I overhead some guys talking and it led to me writing this. So today’s post is some sort of rant and purgation of my emotions about a crucial issue to the women folk.

I find it very shocking & hypocritical at the double standards society upholds when it comes to women particularly those in power or authority. When a man upholds a position of authority or chooses work over family, he’s regarded as “formidable” “hardworking” or “determined” but if a woman in power does, that’s when the term shifts to being “power hungry”, “controlling” or even “career oriented”.

The truth is a Weak man can’t love a strong woman, he wouldn’t even know what to do with her. Strong women only intimidate weak men!!

So what if I’m ambitious and I go for what I want. Well if that makes me a bitch then I proudly accept the title.

Personally, I think society just needs to get a grip!! What makes it alright for a man to strive for excellence and chase after his dreams but this becomes a Prima facie offence ( a crime that needs no proof to yield a conviction) if it’s a woman??

Is it bad to have dreams and ambitions as a woman? Cuz the ribs that made me were gotten from you is not a guarantee that I should be subservient to you!!! You gotta earn that!!!

Why do most men expect support from their women and offer none in return?? Is it because they feel intimidated or they just want someone to stroke their ego?? They all want a “ride or die chic” but are not ready to be the “ride or die nigga”.

Why is it always a one way street???

Looking back into history, most women who changed the world at one point or the other had issues with their marriages, some even lost their marriages as the men just “up and left!!”

Erin Gruwell, an amazing woman born in Glendora, California taught her students in room 203; who were California teenagers after the Los Angeles riot in 1992 during the worst outbreak of interracial gang warfare.

She taught her students to express and think outside the box; where you come from doesn’t define you and for this she’d always be remembered. Her class went on to write “The Freedom Writers Diary” with their stories retold in the movie “The Freedom Writers”. But When it came down to her man sticking with her, y’all can guess what happened.

She’s currently the founder of The Freedom Writers Foundation that functions to promote her successful teaching methods across various states through presentations.

“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at anytime and you would achieve nothing” – Margaret
Thatcher (1925-2013)

Here’s one woman I totally admire, she was loved and hated for her controversial policies but she honestly didn’t care!! Calling her an “Iron Lady” didn’t deter her, it only made her become Britain’s first and to date, female Prime minister who’s the country’s fifth longest serving leader.

I’m sure more praises would have been hollered back then if she were male but I guess it was a crime she had to be female, right???

How about hiding a 13 year old girl even at the prospect of your death, that has got to be courage I tell you. Miep Gies who hid Anne Frank, a young Jewish girl in Germany in the time of the Holocaust (mass murder of approximately six million Jews during world war 2). Though Anne later died at the age of 15 in the Bergen-Belsen ( a Nazi) concentration camp, her diary however was published and has become one of the most popular books ever written titled “The Diary of a Young girl” first published in 1947.

Jennifer Lee has to be another person I love. Watching Disney growing up, it had you believe that you needed to have that Prince Charming as he’d always be the one charging in to rescue you from the evil queen or high tower. But she finally changed that with the movie “Frozen” where she reinvented the image of the Disney princess. For the first time, True love wasn’t between the helpless princess and the hero prince but rather between two sisters who rescued each other!! Call her amazing or what!!

Even with all this talk, the truth is our society is a biased one. Men have it way too easy and we women, well we’re not so lucky but that should be no deterrent to us.

We are stronger than we appear to be and can make a difference or even change the world in our own little way. It begins with fighting for what you believe in!!

I believe in gender equality, leadership, hard work, justice, love, Peace and I’m not ashamed of it. I’m proud of who I am and also of the woman I’m becoming.

Here’s to Strong women, May we know them, May we be them and may we raise them!!!


With Sugary Love…

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#30ShadesOfGrateful – Day 26



Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.

What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed?

What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life?

What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career?

Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down – as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go.

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.

Have a Splendid New Year!

With Sugary Hands..